Your Relationships

When we have a relationship with another person, it’s a lot like the two of us are in a canoe. Some relationships are like you are doing all the paddling.  Some are like the other person does it all.  Some people find that the other person always does most of the paddling.  Others find that they do it all.

It’s good to pace your paddling to the speed of the other person.  You might get to feeling like things are going too slow and you will never get to your destination, so you start doing extra paddling and wind up exhausted and angry.  Or you might feel like the other person is more powerful and have a desire to let them do the paddling for you.

But the best relationships are the ones where the paddling happens to an equal amount.  So then you both arrive at the destination feeling much better than if you had paddled alone, and that satisfying feeling of knowing you both worked to get to your destination.

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